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Cake day: November 6th, 2023

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  • It’s actually normal for a married man to lose his “separate” friends and end up becoming more family-oriented and friends with his wife’s friends. Or, if he doesn’t end up being in that group, he may end up turning towards work for some of that same camaraderie.

    Your situation sucks. It’s not uncommon though. I hope that takes the pressure off of you.

    30 is a bit of an arbitrary number. Maybe you could make 31 or 32 the big year, and focus on trying to find new friends (or rekindle old friendships) until then. It’s harder than it was when you were younger. But if you had friends before, you can probably do it again!

    Don’t feel embarrassed about your situation. Don’t feel embarrassed about inviting your wife’s friends (as long as you actually like them, of course).

    Your birthday is ultimately about you. Not putting on a show or proving anything to anyone else.

    Happy birthday, and wishing you many more ahead with many loved ones. Family and friends.






  • r/Canada was taken over by right-wing mods, including some fsr right extremists and at least one open white supremacist.

    The sub isn’t made far right though. The moderation is more subtle, with clear bias in moderation regardless of source.

    Articles critical of right-wing parties, policies, and politicians (even fact-based pieces) will often be silently removed, often for being “repeats” since there are multiple articles from different sources about the same topic. So only one post will stay up. Yet “repeats” of articles critical of left-wing stuff are allowed, as are “repeats” of non-political topics.

    Comments are not as heavily moderated, but left-wing biased comments are more targetted.

    Outright racism is generally removed. But plenty of comments talking about “certain types of people” or “people from certain countries” are allowed… unless those comments are talking about white people or Canadians, in which case even those “subtle” comments are removed for “outright racism”. The up/downvotes also tend to follow this trend.

    The sub got to this point probably around the pandemic, when Canada’s explicitly far-right extremist sub, r/MetaCanada got shutdown. The userbase migrated to r/Canada, and some of the mods from r/MetaCanada were welcomed into the r/Canada mod team (including the aforementioned open white supremacist). The right-wing extremist mods also started pushing out the more moderate, centre, and left-wing mods.

    It’s the kind of shitshow that an outsider would never notice. Makes me sad that they have the “official” name, just r/CountryName…