I always enjoy the payoff of Lucky Number Slevin even after watching it a few times.
I know there are more but I’m struggling to think at the moment, I might have to come back to this…
Yeah, I’ve seen One Hour Photo a few times (also Insomnia and The Final Cut), it’s how I know he did creepy so well and probably why I know to avoid that episode lol
Idk if it’s hindsight bias or what, but I feel like if some guy called my place of work claiming to be a cop and told me to rape my 14-18 year old coworker I would suspect something is up
I do too, but then you look at society, and the individual and mass abuses and atrocities that have been and still are committed (or even just not objected to) under the influence of one or a small group of manipulative exploiters (some with little other power, but some who control the very systems that govern our lives), and you realise that if nothing else, you have to be constantly aware and vigilant to their manipulations, and even then, no one is immune.
I think the worst thing about it is that it works every day, in so many different ways. Appeal to authority (not the fallacy, just the act of) is an enforced value in most societies, and it will drive people to do the most horrific shit. Always question authority.
Wait, what? I’ve seen the movie, but didn’t know about this. Will have to look it up.
E: ok so saw Williams plays the caller in it, think I’ll pass, I don’t need that memory of him in my brain lol but good to know it made the show either way.
Guy who is extremely good at manipulating people ends up manipulating like 6 or more … to do all the requests he has.
That reminds me of https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strip_search_phone_call_scam, which is so fucked up on so many levels.
Happy to help! The fandom pages are absolute garbage, breezewiki really is a godsend.
I found out about it on here: https://libredirect.github.io/, I’m not sure how up to date it is, but there are definitely some other useful links to explore
If you’ve ever used a fan wiki for a video game or hobby you have likely experienced how bad a wiki larded down with ads can be.
A bit of an aside, but breezewiki.com is a great open sourced way to get away from this (their internal search doesn’t always work, but a search engine search for fandom name + breezewiki should do it)
Casio G-Shock
Real nostalgia hit with that one, I’ve never really liked wearing a watch, and haven’t really before or since, but for a few years in my teens, I was a huge Baby G fan, I had to beg my parents to get me one for my birthday lol
Np, it was a good quote to mention.
Yup, I saw their one reply, which is why I edited mine lol
The quote in question, since OP could definitely do with reading it (not to mention the entire letter it comes from):
I must confess that over the past few years I have been gravely disappointed with the white moderate. I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro’s great stumbling block in his stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen’s Counciler or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate, who is more devoted to “order” than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says: “I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I cannot agree with your methods of direct action”; who paternalistically believes he can set the timetable for another man’s freedom; who lives by a mythical concept of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait for a “more convenient season.” Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. Lukewarm acceptance is much more bewildering than outright rejection.
TL;DR because I get the feeling that investing any more energy here is a waste of time:
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(E: one of the main things OP seems to be missing is that capitalism is just as much a system of oppression as racism, sexism, and the rest are)
The cops are unlikely to help you, wherever you are.
Instead, try social services, or a domestic abuse charity, they will be significantly more sympathetic and could potentially offer you support, or at least tools to try and deal with this situation.
The other thing is to protect yourself, go no contact or at least reduce it. It sounds from your short post that you are an adult and live in your own property - don’t let him in. If he has a key - change the locks. If he tries to break in then the police might help, try and gather as much evidence as you can (like a camera doorbell or other recording). Don’t answer any of his communication, if you can, block/delete him from all of your devices and social media. Personally, I would apply the same to your mother, that’s up to you, but it sounds like she’s at the very least enabling him, so isn’t looking out for your best interests, and you need to ask yourself if those are the kind of people you want in your life.
Life is too short to hang on to toxic people who harm us in the hope that they might change. Being related doesn’t make them worthy of your time energy or love. If they do eventually regret their actions and want to apologise and try to make amends, you can let them, or you can choose not to, both are valid.
Take care.
Because the powers that be and the systems they have in place (capitalism, Christian white supremacy, patriarchy, cis-heteronormativity) benefit in one way or another.
If they teach us that Julius Caesar was a bad guy and that it’s good he was defeated, then we might learn that our current leaders are often bad guys too, and that maybe we should do the same to them.
In the same way that if they teach us that Hitler took his inspiration for the holocaust from already firmly established American racism, we might learn that our own history is just as bad and should be fought against at all cost (which is also what we’re taught instead of the reality - the allies fought the Nazis because they threatened their own power, not because of an ideological disagreement).
That’s why we’re not taught (or only given a palatable token example) about working people fighting the owning class for basic rights, Black brown and Indigenous people fighting the Christian white supremacist establishment and winning, and other oppressed groups standing up to their oppressors (E: nor most of the atrocities they have and continue to commit).
Whitewashing history is always a deliberate act, and is always done in defence of the ruling class.
I don’t know if this counts, but in terms of “proper” condiments I generally just stick to mayo and strong mustard, so here’s a good all rounder dressing/dip/marinade I’ve been using a lot recently:
EDIT, though probably far too late for anyone to notice, but I’ve just realised I forgot to mention an important ingredient: 1/2 to 1 teaspoon of sugar (or honey, or maple, or anything sweet).
All in a jar you can close, shake well before each use, will last in the fridge for ages.
Can easily be upgraded or adjusted to taste, goes with anything you want to make taste vaguely Asian - salads or roasted/stir fried veg, noodles, rice, meat/substitute… I love it with melted butter on sweetcorn, or on a cold rice noodle salad.
Wow, I wasn’t really expecting a reply, never mind something this through!
It’s past 2am here, so my brain can’t take it all in right now, so I’ll give it a proper read tomorrow when I can better process it and reply accordingly, but I just wanted to say I really appreciate your effort, thank you!
the behavioral pathway will flip and the calming trigger will start causing anxiety instead because that’s when you’re doing it most
You might have no idea, but since you bring it up I might as well ask - any way of reversing this once it’s happened? Recently my stress levels have been so heightened that that switch has flipped on some of the things (and people) that gave me most comfort and instead now they just cause me rage, and I’m struggling to find a way back (am autistic too which I understand can make this even harder)…
For me it won’t stop it, but pushing my tongue up and forward against my pallet and clenching my jaw will help contain the sneeze (and often also give the sinuses a good clear).