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Cake day: July 29th, 2023

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  • Hmm, in written erotica I can enjoy more masochistic stuff than I can enjoy in real life (I do enjoy some but too much will pull me out of the moment) but in videos pretty much enjoy what I do like, or have liked.

    Like Schimitar also said - I do also enjoy younger people in video, they are attractive on screen but not IRL, not even in looks do I find them sexually attractive, only good looking guys close to my age do that for me (though that ‘close to’ bubble is certainly wider than it was, it’s still not very big).









  • You do not have to do things you don’t find sexy! You can use hands, toys, there are so many ways to get off. Focus on what you DO enjoy, and please each other. There are no requirements.

    Also - getting very turned on can ease inhibition, if you really need to try the oral sex, don’t start with it. Get very turned on first.


  • Also, it’s very normal for straight women to appreciate beautiful women. When we look at porn, often I’ll focus on the woman, because I know how that feels, so instead of thinking “what I’d like to do to him” I am thinking “what would it feel to be her”, understand? But tried sex with women and nope, is not like sex for me. Not distressing just nothing there, I am heterosexual.

    Having said all that - my kids were raised without any fear around sexual preference and all have been confident in whether they were into men, women, or both, from the start of their sexuality. So I do agree it’s family/social pressure or expectations a lot of the time. When those are not present, kids do find their way.