Let’s hear some stories from the thready-verse about how you guys met your significant other.
For me it was during the first year of COVID, my company asked who from Europe (I was living in Sweden) wanted to go for a three month business trip to coach a big Korean automotive supplier on how to do modern software development. Most of the other people had families and especially during COVID nobody wanted to travel. I said I could do it, even though I never coached before. But because nobody else volunteered they sent me and and another guy who also was single without a family, etc.
I was convinced that the other guy would have good game with the women here, and thought that there is no harm in installing some international dating app and to try my own luck. During COVID I just lost a ton of weight and found new confidence and it was far away from home and what happens in Korea stays in Korea and so on :D
Anyway, to my surprise during the first two weeks I got some matches and I hit it off with one of them. We met and started dating and very quickly fell for each other. Then when the 3 months were over, I asked the company if the customer would still have some use for my skills and they said yes and send me for 3 more months. I had to go back to Sweden to get a new Visa and spent another 2 weeks in quarantine (as the first time). But then the second tree months were over too and I asked again for more. By that time I was really sick of all the time in quarantine and asked if they could move me from the Swedish office to the Korean office and they agreed.
I went back to Sweden, threw away most of my stuff and put the most valuable things up on a friends attic and moved to Korea with one suitcase. I stayed at AirBnB’s for two more months and then we found an apartment and moved in together.
She has a daughter from a previous marriage and we now have a 1.5 year old son together and we still live in Korea :D
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I’ve been happily married for six years, and we met on a dating app. (OKCupid.)
It was my first time using such a thing, I was in my late 30s and mildly curious about those apps the Kids These Days seem to like. I installed one and was basically daring the silly thing to work. I figured if I was going to try that sort of thing, I was going to do it in a very practical way. I made sure everything about me I thought might be a red flag for someone out there was featured prominently in my profile:
- Here’s exactly where I am politically, religiously, etc., my real age, and my firm disinterest in parenthood.
- Here’s my bisexuality but also my monogamousness, yes those two things can go together.
- Here’s the neighborhood I live in (not the nearest fashionable one.)
- Here are a bunch of weird hobbies and pursuits of mine.
- Here are social and political things about which I’m a vocal activist.
- Here’s some of the art, comedy, and other creative stuff I do, and a bit of the weirder end of my sense of humor.
- Here’s the fact that my username there was also the one I’ve used everywhere online for decades (here included) and I’ve had a pretty active online presence since there’s been such a thing, so I’m fairly searchable before you even say hello.
- Here are photos of me I quite like but also some I think I look particularly fat/old/unflattered in, and ones that clearly show off certain things I like to do with my personal style (for example, I’m a cis masculine-presenting guy who wears nail polish.)
In addition to filling the hell out of my profile with all this, I had a lot of fun with the app’s survey questions and generally gave really involved answers.
My attitude on the app was one of blatant honesty. I’d heard so many horror stories about people meeting on dating apps and the person turning out to be nothing like their profile, look nothing like their photo, etc. to the point of false advertising, and I really failed to understand the logic behind that; why lie to someone from the start, as if they won’t actually realize you lied to them when they meet you?
Another important factor for me was that when I got on the app I was just getting back into dating, having recently taken a long time to work on myself and recover from a toxic and abusive relationship. Among other crappy things, my former abuser had spent the duration of our time together disapproving of and trying to force me to change fundamental things about myself in ways that caused me a lot of long-term harm and I was not interested in going through that sort of thing again. I’d rather someone who doesn’t like thing X about me would see that thing on my profile right up front and so choose not engage with me to begin with, rather than have them get interested but find out that deal-breaker thing about me later and be disappointed. I came at it from the angle of saying “hey, I’m here, this is what I’m like, and here’s a bunch of stuff about me you might not like.” I wasn’t necessarily trying to warn people off, but I wanted to see if anyone out there would see all those things about me and still potentially like me.
Long story long, it worked. I got messaged by someone who saw my profile and liked it, I liked hers, and we really clicked from the start. (Our first date was meant to be a quick cup of tea at a cafe, and ended up being many hours of walking and talking around town.) We totally fell for one another, dated, moved in together, got married, and six years later are still ridiculously happy. She is literally my favorite person in the entire world. Her weird and my weird mesh together so perfectly, and our relationship has always been based on complete honesty and open communication and sharing. We’ve seen and supported each other through the highest highs, lowest lows, and everything in between. It’s the healthiest, happiest, and closest romance, friendship, and personal relationship of any kind I’ve ever had, and every day we spend together is better than the last. Among a lot of people who know us we’re that obnoxiously-cute couple. We even have podcasts and other creative projects together nowadays, it’s so goddamn gross. 🥰
These stupid apps don’t work for people like me.
They didn’t work for my wife either, until they did. I was a newbie, but she’d been on for much longer and was nearly ready to give up when I popped up on her feed and one thing successfully led to another.
Long time ago i was an actor and a cook at a medieval market. it was Beltane and my best friend said “I’ll get you a wife tonight”. It didn’t work, and she was very upset about it. I had some sausages on the fire when some girls walked past, and i cried out loud "i’m giving a sausage in a bun for a virgin, anyone interested?. One girl was interested, but very annoying, but her friend was cute. So now i’m married with two children with her.
I met her at my university’s Brony club. I sat next to her because she had a sketchbook open. I brought out my own sketchbook and struck up a conversation.
We had a two-year courtship and have been married for 6 years now.
A what?
A watch party for people that like the television show and fandom surrounding My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic
My wife and I are huge nerds
Ohhh i don’t get it.
It’s just a tv show. I went to watch parties for Legend of Korra, anime, movies, and board game nights.
I’m not sure there’s much more to get
She sat in front of me in college English
Guy sitting next to her was trying so hard to understand FFXIV to get in her pants and I just slid in with a “X is actually the best don’t you even” when she said VII was the best FF
The teacher got involved with our arguments a few weeks later and added in that VI is actually the best, which was fun
She got me to start playing FFXIV, 5 years later COVID happened 1 week before our wedding so we broke up for a year, then got back together and got married in Vegas cuz it was at least open
Still play FFXIV together (DT is terrible though so I might not anymore), still cannot agree on which FF is the best. Though my argument has shifted to a tie between VI & X
I find all the hard to believe.
Basic reality is hard to believe?
I didn’t even mention how she impressed the entire class and made the teacher scramble for his book when she referenced a page and paragraph number for a quote during an oral presentation
Or how I proposed to her at Disney World in a way that according to staff has never been done before, though I sincerely doubt that
And those are both way less believable. All true, too!
“5 years later COVID happened 1 week before our wedding so we broke up for a year” I’m confused - you said that as if COVID was obviously going to lead to breaking up.
It’s the direct catalyst as it caused lost job, moving, massive stress, family deaths, etc.
Things weren’t perfect before but the absolute insane stress the first 3 months of COVID put on both of us ended it for a while. Part of that was also the subconscious effect of our wedding being cancelled so close to it happening followed by that S T R E S S